Having a first child brings many changes in a woman’s life. Some women may experience postpartum depression, feeling traumatized by the childbirth process and the pain they went through. Experts in human behavior believe it’s important to be careful with words spoken to a new mother, as some comments can be hurtful.
According to Femme Actuelle, there are certain things you should avoid saying to a new mother to prevent distress:
1. I didn’t know you were pregnant.
Telling a new mother that you didn’t notice her pregnancy can be hurtful, as it may seem like you were ignoring her condition.
2. How is the baby?
Constantly asking about the baby’s well-being without inquiring about the mother can make her feel neglected and unimportant.
3. What a beautiful baby; no one would know it’s yours.
Comparing the baby’s looks in a way that implies the child doesn’t resemble the mother can be offensive and diminish her feelings.
4. What a baby! Looks like a boy/girl.
If you don’t know the baby’s gender, it’s best to ask before making assumptions. Misidentifying the baby’s gender can upset the parents, especially the mother.
5. When will you have another one?” Asking a new mother when she plans to have another child can be insensitive, especially if she is still recovering from childbirth and the associated pain.
6. Commenting on the baby’s body: Whether the baby is slim or chubby, it’s important to refrain from making comments. You don’t know how the mother feels about her baby’s appearance, and such comments can be unnecessary and hurtful.
